I receive daily interactions on my social media accounts that vary greatly in nature. Some are questions related to dealing with conflict, others are more general organizational behavior questions, but most are primarily associated with leadership.
Conation & Leadership?
Most recently I received a question regarding an individual starting their own business and whether it was even an option. My response was that it’s definitely possible, but your success will depend on “How Bad Do You Want It.” You see, their question was also a leadership question, but it was wrapped in the complexity of self-leadership, one of the most important types of leading because it requires you to engage “Conation” or the mental capacity to maintain a sustained impulse to strive toward an action or goal with directed effort.
If we are honest, have we ever let ourselves down when we personally placed an expectation upon ourselves or set certain goals that we wanted to reach and then didn’t follow through? I know that I have and those were the times that I found my self-leadership lacking and did not feel too good about the outcome.
Now in contrast, what about those times when we wanted something so badly that we were willing to fight for it, lose sleep over it and overcome any obstacle to reach for it? What was the difference maker in that context? It was the self-leadership piece supported by “Conation” and an inability to take no for an answer. If we look back far enough in our lives, we will see examples of self-leadership that tipped the balance in our favor many times, ; we just have to call upon those successful moments to remember what we are capable of as we encounter future goals and potential barriers. So, to that person on Twitter, my answer is unequivocally, yes, it’s possible, but how bad do you want it?
Point of Clarity Quote
“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”
― Leonardo da Vinci